Things They Never Tell You (A Must Read)

So many things they never tell you. So much they never teach you how to deal with. They tell you it will come, you may experience it, but they never teach you how to deal with it. They tell you life will happen to you, they tell you to brace yourself for the storm, but they never tell you how to deal with the depression that comes from dealing with life. They never tell you that this depression is so bad that you would constantly question your existence on earth. That you will constantly need attention from family and friends, not that you are an attention seeker, but that’s the only way you can keep from pulling the strands of your hair out one after the other.

Whose job is it anyway? Our parents were never taught the same. Is life happening more to Generation Y than the baby boomers? Do we have more to deal with in this technology age?

They tell you to stay a virgin, it is the right thing to do.  Society says ‘whatever!’ But they never teach you to deal with the raging hormones, to deal with the pressure of succumbing to your peers. They never teach you how to deal with the emotions that are being stirred up every now and then, they never teach you how to deal with the feelings aroused by touching someone you are attracted to. They never teach you to deal with the loneliness that comes with trying to get it right by staying a V and looking for Mr. Right.

They tell you leave that boy. He is not good for you. They never teach you to deal with the feelings you have already nurtured for him. They never teach you how to pack up all what is left of your feelings and put it back inside the pressure can where it all came out of in the first place. They never tell you that these feelings wouldn’t die the instant you decide you are done with him. They never tell you that these feelings will haunt you and make you do stupid things, really stupid things! They never teach you how to deal with these things, how to act right and not throw every sense of reasoning out the window like your non-functioning head is telling you to.

They tell you read your books, it’s good for you. They however never teach you how to deal with the depression that comes to a jobless first class graduate. They don’t tell you how to deal with thoughts of walking in front of a moving trailer when you just got a ‘no’ from the 10th company in a row.

They tell you that you only attract who you are. They never teach how to deal with the weird feelings (crush if you must name it) you are having for the out-of-place dude that you very clearly cannot date but for some reason are attracted to. They never teach you how to keep it mutual without hating him. They never teach you how to keep it cool…like a G!

They tell you to look out for love. They never really tell you that on the way to love, you may have crushes and it’s not a bad thing. It’s just the heart throwing tantrums.  They never teach you to deal with these feelings that are crushing you this very moment. You know it may go away the next moment, but in that very time, when the feelings are so heavy on you, what do you do? They never teach you to deal with a guy you like that doesn’t like you back. I mean everyone says you are pretty and smart and all, but you just don’t get it, why doesn’t he want me? You want to act like it is all cool but how do you do it? They never teach you.

These and many other things are things they never teach you. They never tell you how to deal with it. You have to figure it out yourself. Would it be better if you were taught? Perhaps!

All of these things are vacuums. Vacuums in form of questions…that need answering. They need to be filled right or else…

So if you have any female around you that is growing and she’s dear to your heart, I think you should take her out, sit her down, teach her these things. Impart her, help her understand. You will be doing her a whole lot of good!

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Post by Tundun Ajayi